Are you forgetting …

Tis the season to be merry,

Yes And, still take care of yourself too in the process.

WHAT’S NEW

My last 2 weeks, due to family happenings, I’ve been hit hard by past triggers. Which meant I’ve felt all the emotions coming up, and spent a lot of time to ground myself to come back to my baseline, not quite there yet.

WINS:

💪 I didn’t snap, woop woop! I noitce that I feel the hurt and take distance to do what I need to do for myself.

💪 I know to sleep on decision before acting on them, that’s how I function best, I learned and experimented this thanks to human design. I love knowing myself better in order for me to function at by best version.

💪 I reach out. I have incredible supporting people around me. They aren’t related to me, these are friendship I’ve cultivated over the years. And I can share openly, vulnerably and authentically without them being triggered by me. You know who you are and I love you for this.

💪 I have professional help, every 2 weeks I’m coached. I used my last session to work on this specific topic. My objective, I wanted to remind myself to move forward from my grounded resourced self, and not my triggered self.

The Feels:

I still feel the anger, a part of me that’s F***ing pissed off, and the hurt. A lot less since the coaching session.

I do not push these emotions down. I accept them. I’ve shared what happened with a few and the same reactions come up, they are shocked at what happened. Makes my ego feel validated. And also it’s my family and I’m well aware that’s the kind of things they do. Also well aware that, it’s not what happens in other family.

I choose to accept it. And my behaviour and will has completely changed because of this situation. I’m happy to help and support, and when something like this happens, I’m done.

everything has a ripple effect.

It’s ok to feel, it’s ok to accept the situation as is and not be ok with it. And it totally ok to change your behaviour after the happening.

THE REMINDER

Put yourself first, do what you need for yourself first.

If you’re not sure what you need, think about what you wish others would do for you, and give that to yourself now.

If you feel capable you can ask the person for what you need, without expecting them to say yes, but just ask, you might be surprised.

even if it’s a 5 mins pause to be alone, give that to yourself. xx